Danish Weddings
The Ceremony: Civil, Church, or Something In Between
Couples in Denmark can choose between a civil ceremony (often held at the local town hall or rådhus) and a church wedding (kirkelig vielse). Civil ceremonies are especially popular due to their simplicity and accessibility - especially for international couples who come to Denmark to marry.
In either case, the ceremony is usually intimate and brief, with room for personalization and quiet emotion.
Unique Danish Traditions You Might Not Know
Here are a few time-honoured-and often playful-customs that make Danish weddings truly unique:
Æresport (or ‘Gate of Honour’ in English) Family and friends of the bride and groom will make a archway of flowers and tree trimmings (sometimes personal items are included such as a ruler if either a teacher or something pertaining to an inside joke with the pair) around the doorframe of the couple’s after-wedding home. In the case of destination weddings, the arch can also be put around the reception area’s doorway.
The Kiss Game When guests tap their cutlery against their glasses, the couple must kiss. If they stomp their feet, the bride and groom must kiss under the table. It sounds chaotic—but it’s full of laughter and joy.
Cutting the Groom’s Socks During the reception, the groom's friends may lift him up, remove his shoes, and cut off the toes of his socks. It’s a symbolic (and humorous) nod to the groom no longer being on the market!
Speeches from the Heart Unlike many cultures where just the best man or father speaks, Danish weddings often include multiple heartfelt speeches from friends and family. These are often spontaneous, deeply personal, and cherished.
The Dance of the Wedding Waltz Before midnight, the newlyweds must dance the brudevals (wedding waltz). Guests surround them in a circle, clapping, singing, and slowly moving in until the couple can barely move—symbolizing the warm embrace of community.
Modern Touches and International Influence
As Denmark becomes increasingly global, modern Danish weddings may incorporate multicultural elements, especially in international or blended families. But even with new traditions added, the core remains the same: celebrating love in an honest, joyful, and deeply human way.
Why It Matters
In a world of Pinterest-perfect weddings and pressure-filled expectations, Danish wedding traditions offer something grounding. They remind us that weddings don't need to be over-the-top to be meaningful. What matters most is sincerity, community, and a good sense of humor.
If you're ever invited to a Danish wedding - say yes. You won’t just witness a marriage. You’ll experience a culture that values connection above all.
Written by: Abi Fox Pinderup
